• Me and T on a walk at Arnside Knott, and on our maternity bump to baby photoshoot 6 years ago
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    Almosts and what ifs – 12 years on

    Do you ever wonder ‘what if?’ I do, I love finding those little ‘almost’ moments that might have resulted in something completely different. T is the same. If something goes wrong and we leave the house late, he’ll even say that maybe its stopped us being involved in something scary on the motorway. He was about 20 seconds behind a pile up on the M6 last week and that shook him too, thinking about the what ifs. What if I hadn’t moved…. Today, me and T have been together 12 years and there are so many what if’s about our story. We met on a random night out in Preston,…

  • Our Christmas Traditions with two images, the first is T holding Spike up o she can put the star on the tree and the second is spike at 7 months old sitting up with her christmas eve teddy and book, One Snowy Night
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    Our Christmas Traditions – how we’re still feeling festive in the new normal

    So this year is going to be a little different for everyone isn’t it? Some Christmas Traditions are having to fall by the wayside this year because of Covid. It’s sad, but hopefully it’ll just be one year and by next year the celebrations can be back to normal. I hope so anyway as next year we’re hoping to go away with Spike’s Grandma to the home of Santa himself! Our Christmas tree traditions Usually our tree makes an appearance the first weekend of December. However this year, we did put it up a little earlier. Lots of people have to spread the Christmas cheer it what’s been a rubbish…

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    Our September in Pictures

    September went by in a flash. Mainly because all of a sudden I went from spending all my time job searching, to being offered a fantastic new position. Then obviously working my contract in my old place! I managed to squeeze in some awesome days out in-between all the days working though, including a few ‘me’ events without Spike! Shocker! Being back at school Obviously September saw Spike back at school after the longest break ever. She did two random days back in July but other than that hadn’t been in school uniform since March. It went ok and we haven’t had too many tantrums or upsets. She has been…

  • Catching the distance learning bug; a blog post graphic with blog title and images of a person with a notepad on their legs and another of a MacBook with a notepad next to it.
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    Catching the distance learning bug – my diploma progress and what I’m hoping to do next

    A few months ago I wrote about learning as an adult and fitting in learning around Spike and other commitments. I thought it was about time I gave you a little update as to how thats looking for me and what is coming next, as I’ve definitely caught the distance learning bug. My ‘up to 3 year’ diploma When I signed up in January I had 3 years to complete the diploma I signed up for. I knew that they recommended the least amount you should take on it was 9 months. I managed one assignment between January and March. And figured it would definitely take longer than 9 months!…

  • Blog post about judging the suitability of toys, books and TV shows for your child, with blog title in graphic and two images of Spike, one reading a Jurassic Park book about dinosaurs and the other watching Jane Goodall’s Documentary on my knee
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    Taking stock of what your kids are taking in – judging the suitability of your child’s toys, books & TV shows for yourself

    I recently read a thread by Jack Monroe about the David Williams books and what’s in them. As an avid book lover I was shocked to discover the theme and language used in these books. However I couldn’t help but think that this is what happens when we don’t take stock of what our kids are taking in. Or think about the suitability of toys, books and tv shows aimed at them. Having an awareness  It’s good to have an awareness of what Spike is taking in. I like to watch stuff with her then have conversations about what she’s watching. I like to read the books she reads first…

  • finding time to listen to my favourite podcasts, image is of two photographs - Raimy a 31 year old woman with dark purple hair bullet journalling with headphones in and the other Raimy's bullet journal and pencil case with her phone playing The Guilty Feminist podcast
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    Finding some ‘me’ time – my favourite podcasts and how I fit in listening around parenting

    This year I have been focusing on getting ‘me’ back. I used to listen to so much, read some much and watch so much that I always had things to talk about with people – other than parenting. Yet during 2018/19 I discovered this wasn’t the case any more. I wanted to do more to be me. I started slowly with dance during the start of 2019, then started hoop when we moved. Slowly I’d been reading more and more too. But my latest love is podcasts. I have learnt so much and discovered so many new people from my podcasts lately. So I thought I would share my favourite…

  • Our June 2020 in pictures blog graphic with blog title and two images. First shows a 5 year old blonde girl with her arms outsretched under a canopy of trees in the woods, the second shows the same girl painting a money box shaped like a cat.
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    Our June in pictures

    I think time sped up when lockdown begun. Do you agree? I can’t believe we’re at the end of June. But with lockdown no on the wind down and me facing the prospect of returning to work, I thought I might start reflecting on our months. June 2020 June was a lot of the same as previous months. We worked on our lockdown project a little. Spike started playing with some friends on our estate and because social bubbles are a thing we got a visit in with Auntie K and a socially distanced garden day with grandma. Natures playground We have made the most of the slow pace and…

  • Managing money and savings when you have a family. Image is blog title with money in jar with a plant growing out of it and a screenshot from the app MoneyWiz 3
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    Managing money and starting to save – top tips for forecasting your spend and stop living month by month

    If you had mentioned the idea of doing a post about money on my blog just a couple of years ago, I probably would have laughed in your face. Me and T have never been overly careful with money. We lived month by month and had credit cards and store cards. A few years ago, just after we had Spike in fact, we started talking about saving for a house. But it seemed so unrealistic at the time. Managing money wasn’t even in our vocabulary! Our situation when we started saving Renting our house, paying off old debt and spending more than we made. They are all traps that get…

  • Blog title graphic - sitting at the table for mealtimes - with two images. On the left is Spike, a 4 year old blonde haired brown eyed girl eating cake, the the right is Spike eating beans and sausage looking very cheeky
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    Sitting down together at the table for mealtimes – what we’ve noticed since we changed our ways

    Growing up our dining room table wasn’t used. It was an extension of the shop that my parents owned. Often covered in newspapers, magazines or stock that needed to go out into the shop. I think I just about managed to eat breakfast on it most mornings. But that was it. And I can only remember eating together as a family around it at Christmas. Breakfast would often be eaten alone, tea time was spent in the living room around the TV. Or in my bedroom. Even when I spent mealtimes in the living room, my meals were often at different times to my parents once I was in my…

  • A blog graphic with post title and two images. The first showing a girl in a unicorn scarf/hat browsing books in Waterstones and the second a 3 year old girl in front of art showing wings at Chester Zoo
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    Our Post-Lockdown Wishlist – Days out and things Spike is looking forward to when we can start the new normal

    Early on in Lockdown Spike was asking a lot of questions about the things that we could not do. It was devastating to hear her ask to visit people, see friends and go on her favourite days out and have to say no. While the questions have stopped, the wishing has started. Spike refers to the lockdown period we are in as the ‘Nasty Bug Days’. She often wishes to do things as soon as these days are over. I have told her we’ll keep a list of all the things she wants to do and try and get to them as soon as we can. Here’s just a few…